Friday, September 25, 2009
What all the Fuss is about....

It's been a busy couple days over here.

Because:





There are many of you out there who deserve to hear this news by phone. Or by getting an e-mail. Or through a sarcastic gorrilagram of some sort. But I just can't manage it right now. As you can see by the picture, we're all pretty tired around here.

Everyone always says things like, "The labor was 8 hours long..." or "She was in labor for 15 hours." Or something like that. I don't know where to officially start counting the official labor, but she started having contractions Friday night, and we had the baby Tuesday morning. So no matter how you count it, it was long.

The end result is pretty good though. Little Oot is healthy and happy. He resembles his daddy in that he likes boobs and sleeping. Everything else will be sorted out later.

I won't trouble you with his measurements. I've never really understood the desire people have to quantify a baby. "He's X big and Y long," As if the baby is a fish you're not sure you're going to keep. Or some prize potato you're hoping will win a prize at the county fair.

Rest assured that he does posses mass and volume. He has all three dimensions and the requisite number of usual parts. He is a boy child. A Libra. Full of grace. An ox. Pinkish in color. Soft. And we have just received independent verification that he is cute as a button.

I've been stockpiling blogs over the last couple months, so you'll see some of those when I'm too busy writing and being domestic to write a new one. If anything, posts will probably be more frequent for a while.

If you have a piece of baby advice (and it seems like everyone I meet does) feel free to post it below. I will also accept cute baby stories. Everyone likes cute baby stories.

Sweet dreams everyone,

pat

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317 Comments:

Blogger Megan said...

Aww. Such a cute baby. I'm expecting a girl myself in four months - exciting news.

September 25, 2009 5:58 AM  
Blogger Stephen Kotowych said...

That is perhaps the best description of a new baby ever offered. Congratulations to you both! Very happy for you!

September 25, 2009 5:58 AM  
Blogger Alex Bledsoe said...

Congratulations, sir.

September 25, 2009 5:59 AM  
Blogger Tyson said...

Way to reproduce! We need more Rothfusses (Rothfi?) in the world.

September 25, 2009 6:01 AM  
Blogger dreamwalker said...

Congratulations! Very very nice photo.

September 25, 2009 6:01 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I have one tip - his ex-utero name should not be Oot.

September 25, 2009 6:02 AM  
Blogger Amber DeGrace said...

Congrats! Being a parent is both the scariest and most wonderful experience you'll ever have in life. You will come to a new realization of your own capabilities and find an inner strength you never knew you had. Take care of your lady, she has fully become a goddess now. There is nothing more beautiful than the fertility and fruit of your woman's womb. :)

September 25, 2009 6:03 AM  
Blogger D said...

Congratulations!!

Mommy of two advice-sleep when the baby sleeps, especially Sarah.

If breastfeeding exclusively, don't panic about weight. Breastfed babies tend to gain a little slower at first, and they poop wayyyy less. After the first few days, pooping once a week is not unusual. It's one heck of a poop, though, lol. We used to put our son in his vibrating chair on Saturday afternoons...and he'd fill his little sleeper. Count wet diapers if you're concerned about him getting enough.

Smell that new baby smell as often as you can...it'll be gone before you know it :)

September 25, 2009 6:05 AM  
Blogger Charity said...

Congratulations!

As for advice: If sleep ever becomes an issue read "Sleepless in America" by Mary Sheedy Kurcinka.

September 25, 2009 6:06 AM  
Blogger Chiara said...

Pat, I´m so happy for you :))))))

every time i see a newborn i want to cry because i´m so happy!

enjoy little Oot, that´s my only piece of advise!

love to all of you, Chiara

September 25, 2009 6:07 AM  
Anonymous Chris S said...

Congratulations!

Advice: boy babies tend to pee while their diapers are being changed. Plan accordingly.

September 25, 2009 6:08 AM  
Blogger The Tussler said...

Congratulations!

September 25, 2009 6:09 AM  
Blogger Ellen-Mary said...

Congratulations!! The only advice I have for you is to enjoy him. Enjoy every minute: when you see his first smile; make him giggle for the first time; when he flushes matchbox cars and clogs the toilet; when he yanks the curtain rods out because he tied his bathrobe belt around them and attempted to swing from the dresser like Robin Hood; when he catches the ball in the outfield and completely blanks on what to do next; when he insists on wearing his plastic sword to the supermarket so he can defend his mom from whatever may be lurking in frozen food. Just enjoy it all. Before you know it he'll be nineteen and driving away in your car.

September 25, 2009 6:10 AM  
Blogger Becca said...

Congratulations to the both of you!

September 25, 2009 6:12 AM  
Blogger Moadby said...

Don't know if this qualifies as cute, but these are some of my thoughts from last year on the first few months of my daughters life. She had colic, which I don't wish on anyone:

The number one question I get these days is “How do you like being a father?” The answer has improved to “It’s pretty cool”. For the first two months, the answer closest to my truth was: “It sucks. I feel like a useless bag of s**t, I’m exhausted and I’m not sure what I’ve gotten myself into.” Nobody, not your friends, co-workers, acquaintances or enemies, tries to explain to you what the first two or so months of your baby’s life will be like. They know that you would not believe them if they told you so they smile and say “It’s great, I wouldn’t trade it for anything.” They know that, no matter what they tell you, you wouldn’t understand.

Perin was an angel for two weeks. She ate, slept and pooped and she was cute. Then she started to cry, then scream like she was being tortured. The doctor told us colic. The definition of colic is: We don’t know what’s wrong with your baby, but it hurts, she’s going to scream 20 hours a day and there’s nothing you can do about it.

If you are a male human being and you are presented with a problem, your instinct is to analyze the problem, come up with a solution and implement it. As a father of a baby with colic, you can do a number of things. You can change it’s diaper, you can wipe puke off it’s face (and hair and arms and back), you can carry it around while it pukes on you (and the floor and the couch and the cat), you can bathe it and clean it up and dress it in dry clothes, which it will immediately puke on, and a clean diaper, which it will immediately poop in and you can repeat the process until your life seems like one long costume change in a screaming-baby horror film, then you can go to work. The baby does not care about this. You don’t get a smile, an atta boy or a high five. What you get is total ingratitude and more screaming. Here’s what doesn’t happen: If your wife is breast feeding, you can’t feed the kid. Therefore, you can’t make it stop crying. You are unable to implement any solution. You can’t fix it. This is very bad for the male psyche.

September 25, 2009 6:13 AM  
Blogger Michael H. Tritter said...

Wow, that's a long labor. Course, it took 14 years for you to push out NOTW, so Sarah had to do something impressive too.

Congrats, Dad.

Congrats, Mom.

p.s., if you are still looking for boy names, my word verification was 'Rizede'

September 25, 2009 6:14 AM  
Blogger Sylph said...

Congratulations, he's adorable. Baby advice...
1. Love him
2. Feed him
3. Keep him away from fire...especially if it's blue. That's all I got.
:)

September 25, 2009 6:15 AM  
Blogger Captain Joe said...

Congratulations and the best of luck to the three of you, Pat.

September 25, 2009 6:21 AM  
Blogger gapyeargirl123 said...

Congratulations! Best wishes for Sarah & Oot.

September 25, 2009 6:25 AM  
Blogger Maria Stahl said...

*happy sigh*

What a lovely picture!

Hey, that's a good hint: Take lots of pictures.

Sarah looks wonderful and I hope she takes care of herself. She just be exhausted.

Advice? Be patient with yourselves, and with each other. As wonderful a time as this is, it's a huge change. Expect some stress as you work through it. (And keep a loving eye out for postpartum depression. Hopefully Sarah won't have it but if she does, get her help, and quick.)

One more thing: Guinness is good for lactation. Seriously.

wv: Reedlize. How about that? Reed Lize Rothfuss?

September 25, 2009 6:26 AM  
Blogger Chilango2 said...

Nothing to say but congratulations.
My only word of advice is recognize that you don't need to raise the kid perfectly.

September 25, 2009 6:27 AM  
Blogger Maria Stahl said...

MUST be exhausted. Not JUST.

New WV: Tabarif. Now THAT's a NAME!! Tabarif... um... Ulysses Rothfuss.

September 25, 2009 6:28 AM  
Blogger Ruth said...

In contrast to the prior breastfeeding post, my son nursed 2 hours/ slept for 2 hours, repeat, for months . . . and I continued nursing (although it was infrequent at the end) until he was nearly 5. He pooped and peed a'plenty. He also grew 3.5" and doubled his weight by 5 weeks of age and he was an utterly normal size at birth. He's 21 now, healthy as a horse, and 6'5" tall.

Get involved with a local La Leche League. They are your lifeline to sanity.

Best advice? There's no such thing as "spoiling" an infant by picking him or her up and cuddling him or her. Babies are meant to be held, nuzzled, kissed, adored, snuggled with, and loved. Try to learn the difference between fussing because of tiredness and simply needing lovin', and don't be afraid to err on the side of cuddling. That goes for each other, too. *g*

September 25, 2009 6:29 AM  
Blogger logankstewart said...

That's so awesome, Pat. Congratulations to you and Sarah, and Oot, too, for just showing up.

Best of luck.

September 25, 2009 6:29 AM  
Blogger Judy said...

MAZEL TOV PAT!!!!!!!!!!! Many wonderful blessings to you, to Sarah, and to The Baby Formally Known As Oot (But Who Now Has A Very Wonderful New Name). :D :D :D

The best advice? Trust yourselves, and take everyone else's advice with a grain of salt. ;o)

Many hugs and best wishes all around - thank you for sharing this priceless moment with us!!!

September 25, 2009 6:30 AM  
Blogger Doug Warren said...

Congrats, my little guy is 3 now and it has been great. My advice is 'don't be afraid'

...to play with his toys
...to watch his cartoons
...to visit his imaginary kingdom
...to be a kid again

Having a kid is a magical experience. Try not to miss a second of it.

September 25, 2009 6:32 AM  
Anonymous Linden said...

Congratulations! Enjoy your new adventures!

September 25, 2009 6:32 AM  
Blogger jazza said...

congrats to you both!

September 25, 2009 6:33 AM  
Blogger Manu said...

Matter, not anti-matter, I'm guessing :) Now seriously, congratulations!

September 25, 2009 6:34 AM  
Anonymous Arevanye said...

Congratulations on such a lovely baby boy!

Mother of two advice: breastfeeding is hard. It looks easy, but tell Sarah to be patient with herself if it doesn't go well at first. Find another mom who has nursed children before as a support person for questions and sympathy. :)

Our oldest daughter had colic and we found the thing that quieted her was to turn on the stereo LOUD and take turns dancing with her. She loved anything Beatles.

September 25, 2009 6:37 AM  
Blogger Spryng said...

!!
Congratulations!
That's a beautiful photo.

September 25, 2009 6:39 AM  
Blogger ANGIERAE said...

Congrats! Mine started high school earlier this month and trust me, it goes SO FAST. Even when things are at their worst, when he's screaming and you can't comfort him, when you feel like you'll never get more than two hours sleep consecutively - just remember it won't be like that forever. It does get better, and being a parent is the absolute most rewarding thing I've ever done.

September 25, 2009 6:41 AM  
OpenID stevenagy said...

Congrats.

And good luck with the book and the Prix de l'maginaire.

September 25, 2009 6:42 AM  
Blogger Cynthia said...

oh congrats! yay, baby!

best thing I was told by my dad:
babies cry. they cry because they are hungry, tired, wet, dirty, uncomfortable, and then somewhere over 10% of the time they cry just to cry. it's ok. love them and comfort them, and understand that they feel your love and comfort even if they do not reduce or cease their crying.

cute baby story:
mine turned 9 months old on the day yours was born. he started sleeping mostly through the night around 4 months. every morning I go into his room saying "I hear a baby" then I turn on the light and exclaim "there he is!" 28 mornings out of 30, I get a huge grin and sometimes even a squeal of delight. it is the best way to start a day ever.

finally, if you can still remember your own name at the 6 week mark, you're doing better than most. there is no way to describe or explain that level of sleep deprivation. no way at all. and it was more painful than the very painful labor and delivery because it lasts so much longer.

September 25, 2009 6:48 AM  
Blogger Kat Howard said...

Congratulations to you, and of course to Sarah. I wish you both an amazing time getting to know your beautiful son.

September 25, 2009 6:51 AM  
Blogger Ralf said...

Congrats!!!

Try and get some rest now.. you'll need it later.. haha..

Take care you 3 ;)

September 25, 2009 6:52 AM  
Blogger Rickster said...

Congratulations to the 3 of you. Best of luck of the next few months as everything settles in.

September 25, 2009 6:53 AM  
Blogger Brock Cusick said...

Congratulations!!! I just went through a very similar experience just two weeks ago, and it's been a blast and a half! Busy though.

As a recent new dad with only 2 1/2 weeks more experience than you do, I have just a few pieces of advice:
1. List to Ruth, a few comments above mine. She speaks truth.
2. I have found The Happiest Baby on the Block and First Three Years of Life to be incredibly helpful books. The first gives you some real, practical tips on dealing with fussy babies during the first three months (invaluable) and is a quick, easy read. The second gives a great big-picture perspective on the child development process, and you only need to read the first couple chapters this month! :)
3. Ask for help. As a new parent you'll probably want to be involved in every aspect of your son's life, but you also need to sleep! It's a marathon, not a sprint. :-)

I don't have any cute stories yet, but here's a cute picture.

September 25, 2009 6:55 AM  
Blogger Mike said...

Congrats and welcome to fatherhood, the toughest job you will ever love.

Advice (you did ask) and this is normally the only unsolicited advice I ever give - when you change him, make sure you have a cover ready, in case he isn't empty.

Additionally, make sure that diaper is on securely, or one day your son may come up to you and say, here daddy and hand you something that looks like a piece of chocolate.

September 25, 2009 6:55 AM  
Blogger Justin Olivetti said...

Congrats! My wife and I had our first five months ago, and we're expecting our second next April (busy busy).

My only advice is a no-brainer: love that kid. You can never hold them too much, kiss them too much, and tell them how proud you are to be their parent.

The sleep situation is the real biggie, but you'll figure that out.

September 25, 2009 6:57 AM  
Blogger R said...

AWWW Congratulations Pat! Love the pic, very artistic.... hope Sarah doesn't kick your ass for almost showing her boob haha!

You made a very nice baby :)))
I wish I could hug you! And Oot, baby's are so awesome!

September 25, 2009 7:01 AM  
Blogger SunTzu said...

Congratulations!

September 25, 2009 7:05 AM  
Blogger RaynDragon said...

Congratulations to you both! I will add my weight to the "sleep when the baby sleeps" advice. And mention that it does get easier as you go - especially after the three month mark. Also, Mamasource.com is a great reference for asking questions. Tons of experienced moms on there who are happy to share their insights & recommendations.

Trust your instincts as parents. Only you know what's truely best for your child.

September 25, 2009 7:06 AM  
Blogger Jerry said...

Congrats. As the parent of a 2-year old, my advice is to appreciate all of the little stages that they go through. Don't wish for them to do the next thing sooner because they change fast enough as it is.

Also, every parent should read the book "Free Range Kids" by Lenore Skenazy. It's a great guide to all of the stuff that you shouldn't waste energy freaking out about.

September 25, 2009 7:07 AM  
Blogger Isenda said...

Congratulations to both of you! Aww, he's so tiny and cute :D

September 25, 2009 7:09 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Well done, good and kindly sir. And special props to your lady, who had to do all the hard work. Now it's your turn. I hope you enjoy caring for this new creation at least as much as you enjoyed making it.

September 25, 2009 7:10 AM  
Blogger jdcb said...

Congrats Pat, won't bother you with long stories and advice as you just want to get with that little one, so I'll just say to cuddle the little one as much as you can, they grow up faster than you think is possible right now, and pamper that momma...

September 25, 2009 7:11 AM  
Blogger Benji said...

Holy cow, Mom and Baby are gorgeous. You done good, kid. You done good.

Advice: When people give you advice, smile wearily, say something like, "Thanks, I'll keep that in mind." Walk away and keep doing what you are doing. You might feel like you have no clue what is going on, but it is a normal side-effect of parenthood. It does not fade.

I am told I have wonderful kids, but when I face myself in the mirror, I always ask, "What the Hell did I get myself into?" Then, I then exit the bathroom with a little less confidence, try to not trip over the toddler that wants a kiss, and I have conversations about pirates and Batman with the five-year-old. My confidence is renewed.

Oh, and when you put words together you never thought you would say, write it down. Our first was, "Stop licking the television!"

Enjoy them both. Well done. Well done.

September 25, 2009 7:12 AM  
Blogger Verónica said...

Oh, he's so cute!! I'm really happy for you both, congratulations, becomming parents must be a wonderful experience. I hope you don't have many sleeping issues, I have two nephews and that's the only part I don't enjoy of spending time with them.
An advice: later on the year when his teeth begin to come in using small pieces of ice to calm them is always a good idea.

Lots of love for you three!

September 25, 2009 7:13 AM  
Blogger Katie said...

Congratulations! I have three girls - seven, six and four and my best piece of baby advice is Boudreaux's Butt Paste - that stuff will stop a rash in its tracks. Trust me.
xo
k

September 25, 2009 7:13 AM  
Blogger Kari said...

Congratulations! My word verification name suggestion is Inessi. :) I love your description, by the way, and am slightly sad that we may never learn little Oot's real name, but internet privacy (or lack thereof), and you being something of a celebrity means you can't be too careful.

About 6 months ago when my little guy was born, we discovered the essential nature of a book called "The Happiest Baby on the Block." It worked for us when nothing else did. If nothing else, it made us feel like we had a plan for when he cried and we didn't know what to do. But usually, it calmed him down more quickly than anything else we were recommended.

I wish the three of you all happiness. You have a wonderful adventure ahead of you.

September 25, 2009 7:15 AM  
Blogger Zelda Zap said...

He's absolutely darling!
I have only two pieces of advice. Take him to swimming lessons by the time he reaches 12 months or so... babies don'thave a fear of water at that age. He may never have a fear of water if he has swimmign lessons early. And read read read to him while he's a baby. Read him what you're reading. Read him everything you can think of. It's great for him language developement and you can't start too soon.

September 25, 2009 7:15 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Many congratulations, Pat! As a new mom myself I can only say help Sarah out as much as you can. Sleep deprivation brings out the worst in you but remember: this too shall pass. We're having the time of our lives with out little guy and I know you will too! Blessing on your little family! -Hannah

September 25, 2009 7:16 AM  
Blogger Neuro said...

Congratulations! Allow me to repeat the most important piece of baby advice I ever received:

Don't try to make a happy baby happier.

Saved our butts more times than I can count.

September 25, 2009 7:18 AM  
Blogger Greg said...

Just wanted to echo Cynthia's cute baby story:

cute baby story:
mine turned 9 months old on the day yours was born. he started sleeping mostly through the night around 4 months. every morning I go into his room saying "I hear a baby" then I turn on the light and exclaim "there he is!" 28 mornings out of 30, I get a huge grin and sometimes even a squeal of delight. it is the best way to start a day ever.


This rocks me every time my youngest (5 months) does this. Congrats!

September 25, 2009 7:21 AM  
Blogger Debra L Martin said...

No matter how you count it, that was a very long labor. Glad everything turned out well.

Congratulations to both of you. Enjoy your bundle of joy!

September 25, 2009 7:24 AM  
Blogger Kris-chan said...

Congratulations to you both! My only advice is to cherish every minute because he'll be big before you know it!

September 25, 2009 7:28 AM  
Blogger Amanda said...

My deepest congratulations, Mr. Rothfuss.
As far as caring for babies goes... I'm no expert, I've just been surrounded by then since the age of 10 or so, and I know that it's hard. But they're so worth it.
I hope to see little Oot sometime :)

September 25, 2009 7:29 AM  
Anonymous Jambo said...

Congratulations to both of you.

September 25, 2009 7:30 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Do what works...and that IS different for everyone. What works great for some will not work for you. You guys will find your feet though.Its all good!

September 25, 2009 7:31 AM  
Blogger h28koala said...

CONGRATULATIONS!

September 25, 2009 7:33 AM  
Blogger dajamama said...

Mucho congrats. The nursing advice and snuggling advice are all in line with what I was going to say. One thing to add - get a few different types of baby-wearing paraphernalia. Ring sling, pouch sling, wrap, mai tai, ergo, whatever. (You can google the names if they look like gibberish to you.) All babies like to be worn close to a parent's body. There's all kinds of literature on the emotional and, yes, even physical benefits of baby-wearing. Again, google it. Yet another benefit, and this is HUGE - it's something that you, yourself, with your decorative-non-functional chesty bits, can do to comfort the baby when mama is tapped out.

However, different babies are comfortable in different positions. For instance, my first baby hated to be worn in anything that had her facing in, so it was all slings and baby bjorns for her. The second loved being smushed up against me really snug and tight in the moby wrap. (Still does, at 16 months, when she needs a nap.) So see if you can borrow some different types from friends or acquaintances or a local babywearing group (yes, they exist).

I could go on and on about how babywearing is great for being out and about, how you can keep your hands free and still hold the baby, how skin-to-skin contact with newborns is proven to help them thrive...but I hope these are things that you will discover together with your beloved as you try it out.

Good luck! Oh, and one other piece of advice - follow your gut and ignore everyone's advice. :)

September 25, 2009 7:33 AM  
Blogger Anton Strout said...

Congrats, Pat!

I will applaud you if you stick with Oot because every child deserves a chance to be named after the Legend of Zelda: Ocarina of Time!

September 25, 2009 7:38 AM  
OpenID suziko said...

To Sarah:

Breastfed babies nurse all the time. You'll read "every 2 hours" and such, but it's not true. They pretty much want to be on the boob all the time. Or at least mine did. It's normal, though not always so pleasant for mommy.

Oh, and it's ok to have a glass of wine.

September 25, 2009 7:39 AM  
Blogger Alec said...

"He resembles his daddy in that he likes boobs and sleeping. Everything else will be sorted out later."

Now there is tea all over my computer screen.

Congratulations.

September 25, 2009 7:40 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Conga Rats to all three of you!!!!

September 25, 2009 7:41 AM  
Blogger Bonnie Hynes said...

Congratulations, you're officially multiplying! I have a few words of advice that really helped with my kids. First, don't let the "La Leche League" people freak you out over the breast-milk versus formula decision and the timing. My wife wasn't able to breast feed our kids and got way depressed over it, but we were able to use a breast pump (get the expensive ones, nobody wants a nipple ripped off by a cheap machine) and I was able to help feed the clones. We switched to formula early and my kids turned out just fine. The other advice I have is to check out a book called "On Becoming Babywise." Some of it is a bit overboard, but tone it down a bit and we had our kids sleeping through the night after just a few weeks with it.

September 25, 2009 7:43 AM  
Blogger Heather Faye said...

Yay!

September 25, 2009 7:43 AM  
Blogger Rob said...

Beautiful, congratulations to you both. My own 'baby' is 20 on Monday! Enjoy every moment because it slips away before you have time to notice.

September 25, 2009 7:46 AM  
Blogger Ken Harris said...

Congratulations!

My only advice is to give him a name that won't get him beat-up in school. Your parents were good to you with Patrick. Stick with something like that. Everybody likes Mike, Tom or Steve.

Stay away from Frapro (or any of the other word verifications above or below.)

September 25, 2009 7:48 AM  
Blogger Jim C. Hines said...

Congratulations to all three of you!

September 25, 2009 7:52 AM  
Blogger Serge said...

Congratulations to you and mommy!

Peace of advise, get a "Diaper Dekor". You'll thank it many, many times. I am father of 15 month old twins and talking from experience :)

September 25, 2009 7:52 AM  
Anonymous Tal said...

Smother it with love so that it either learns to break free or sits on the metaphorical couch for the rest of its life.

September 25, 2009 7:58 AM  
Blogger Angoisette said...

Congratulations! My son is 2 and I remember how excited/terrified/paranoid we were. Have fun with that. ;)

On the advice front, only this: Advice is just that. Advice. Heed it or not, it's up to you - just don't freak out about it if your son isn't speaking full sentences like the kid down the street when he's 4 months old. He'll take things in his own time - after all, it's his life. ;)

For Sarah: Don't get involved in the breastfeeding wank. Your son, your body, your choice. If it works, it works, if it doesn't, it doesn't. I had to learn that the hard way so that's always my first bit of advice to new mothers. That and post partum depression sucks and I hope vehemently you don't fall prey to it. :)

Love him. But you'll do that anyway. :) He's precious, you two will be great parents!

September 25, 2009 7:58 AM  
Anonymous Lucy said...

I reckon you should take quite a lot of photos. You'll be glad you did.

September 25, 2009 7:58 AM  
Blogger Teri said...

Congratulations! You've just met your greatest teacher!

And, yeah, I've got some happy tears going.

From reading all the posts, I'm thinking you have the best fans, ever. Beautiful stuff from all these hearts.

Having nursed two babies, it is difficult at first, but don't give up. The rewards are amazing.

Yes, this time is short and precious. Treasure it mightily.

Yay you guys!

September 25, 2009 8:00 AM  
Blogger K. L. Howard said...

He is so cute!! Congratulations to the both of you!

Babies smile when they poo in the first few months, but don't worry. They'll start smiling on their own sooner or later.

September 25, 2009 8:00 AM  
Blogger Laura Y. said...

I have two little ones and would like to offer a piece of advice as counterpoint to those who say "sleep when the baby sleeps." Yes, there will be times when you are bone tired and all you want to do is sleep, and when that happens, by all means get some sleep if you can. But if you're not too tired and there's something you'd *rather* be doing, something that will relax you and make you happy and that you can't do very well while you're tending to the baby, do that instead. You don't *have* to sleep just because you finally can. But don't waste the time cleaning house (unless that relaxes you and makes you happy, of course).

Oh, and also, be aware that other parents will tell you that Little Georgie was sleeping through the night at 6 weeks. Don't believe them. Ask what their definition of "sleeping through the night" is. For those people, it's usually 4 hours in a row. I'm sorry -- a nap from 1am to 5am does not a full night's sleep make.

And +1 on the Diaper Dekor -- ours is still going strong after 3.5 years. Love it.

Congrats -- enjoy your brand-new, completely changed (mostly for the better) life!

September 25, 2009 8:02 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Congrats! Now some brief words of wisdom... Rock Paper Scissors is a great way to determine whose turn it is to take care of Oot in the middle of the night. Also wear goggles and Face Shields when diaper time comes.

September 25, 2009 8:03 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Congratulations

September 25, 2009 8:04 AM  
Blogger Valarya said...

Adorable baby-ness! *squeee*

Everyone here is telling you to sleep when the baby does. I know it's the usual "good advice" but that baby is gonna be sleeping for 20 hours a day the first several weeks.. so don't stress yourself out too much. :)

Someone earlier said to always cherish the stages as they come and not wish for tomorrow's for they come soon enough. I completely agree. My daughter is now 9 years old and there are many days I miss her tinier hands and tinier cheeks to kiss. :)

September 25, 2009 8:06 AM  
Blogger Lea said...

OMG congratulations!!!!!!!!

And one couldn't give a more perfect description!

You both deserve 2 weeks worth of naps for that looong weekend!

September 25, 2009 8:10 AM  
Blogger larry said...

Congratulations! Not sure if this was previously posted, didn't read all the comments.....if he's crying either change him or feed him or both. That fixes 99% of new baby needs.

September 25, 2009 8:14 AM  
Blogger Hobo's Books said...

"A person without a sense of humor is like a wagon without springs. It's jolted by every pebble on the road." - HENRY WARD BEECHER

I agree with others as far as be patient with yourselves and each other and little Oot. Try to keep your sense of humor to cushion the bumps! When you feel yourself losing your sense of humor, breathe deeply. take a nap. eat a snack. cry. then keep on keeping on. Much love to the three of you!

September 25, 2009 8:16 AM  
Blogger Cat said...

What a beautiful family!

The first 6 months are the hardest because the baby is basically a
crying, pooping, fleshy squirming ball of need.

After 6 months or so, they get a personality. And then it's oh so much more fun.

Think of it as the hazing period to get into the best frat ever.

Also, buy used baby stuff. They don't use it for very long and there's no point to buying new.

I have a one year old boy btw. Light of my life.

September 25, 2009 8:16 AM  
Blogger L.E.S. said...

Congratulations!

September 25, 2009 8:22 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

my best baby advice is... don't worry too much about following other people's advice. What's right for someone else's kid isn't necessarily right for your kid. Do whatever works/feels for your kid and life will be good. Sleep-deprived and chaotic, but good.

September 25, 2009 8:22 AM  
Blogger Loth said...

Ok, so I don't know if it is considered faux pas to give an author advice from another author's book…but in this case in applies:

DON'T PANIC!!!

(and always know where your towel is. )

^-^

September 25, 2009 8:23 AM  
Anonymous Josiah said...

Dang, well there never was any going back . . .

Advice -- there is nothing in his life that is to small for you to be a part of. From now on you are being watched, anything you say is going to come out of his mouth at some point, the way you act is going to have a huge effect on how he acts etc.

O and don't let Sarah baby him to much after age five. : P

September 25, 2009 8:23 AM  
Blogger N said...

....umm, what's his name. Because I kinda doubt that it will continue to be Oot.

September 25, 2009 8:27 AM  
Blogger yoeliamir@gmail.com said...

Enjoy every minute. They'll only each happen once.

September 25, 2009 8:33 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Congradulations to you both and welcome Baby Oot to the world!! He is beautiful.

September 25, 2009 8:39 AM  
Blogger Tasha said...

Firstly Congratulations! A beautiful baby boy!

Advice:
When given advice; Smile, nod and then do your own thing.

Trust your own gut before anything else.

Take thousands of pictures; better to have too many than not enough.

Enjoy him, as Ruth said up the top, no such thing as spoiling a baby, hold 'em, kiss 'em and hold 'em more. Buy a baby sling and carry Oot round and let Sarah sleep (and the other way round)

Congratulations again!

September 25, 2009 8:49 AM  
Blogger Bin Bin said...

Congratulations!! Both the baby and Sarah look great. Sarah looks pretty sexy actually, all half nakey and what not.

You too are truly lucky :)

Kisolcu (Jonathan) Rothfuss...Interesting. That was my word verification

September 25, 2009 8:55 AM  
Blogger Robert S said...

Congratulations. I loved it when my little guy was small, now he's a 19 month old ball of crazy.

Take advantage of the time when they can snuggle up and sleep on your chest, its awesome. Its also an awesome excuse for not getting up to do things around the house.

September 25, 2009 8:57 AM  
Blogger Pamala Knight said...

Congratulations to you, Sarah and the bambino.

Just remember, don't be too nervous, lots of kisses and it's okay to talk sweet baby nonsense to him now. He'll remind you of it of it in a few years and it's best to get it in now when he can't really talk back. Coherently, anyway.

September 25, 2009 9:05 AM  
Blogger James said...

"fish your going to keep." - that made me laugh, because whenever people say "he's so big!" (and he's not, it's just one of those things people say) I say, yep, he's a keeper!

September 25, 2009 9:08 AM  
Blogger Mike said...

Congratulations to two of you and welcome to one. We're all happy to see you.

Word verification:
Azoibil Ander Rothfusss

September 25, 2009 9:08 AM  
Anonymous LiquidWeird said...

Congrats, Pat!

Now you'll have to buy him a fake beard to wear until he can grow his own.

September 25, 2009 9:24 AM  
Blogger Vulpes Fulva said...

AWESOME! Great job, Pat!!! So, what's Oot's real name? Pat, Jr.?

September 25, 2009 9:25 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Congrats!
Now the real work begins.
Remember how long your lovely girl was in labor when you start to get annoyed at her for asking you to change diapers or get up to feed the baby in the middle of the night.

September 25, 2009 9:27 AM  
Blogger Baron said...

Congrats on your prized potato!

Advice from Dad of three. Don't rock baby to sleep, no matter how tempting. Try to put him in his crib while still awake. They sleep much better in the long run that way.

September 25, 2009 9:27 AM  
Anonymous Melissa said...

Beautiful. Congratulations, and enjoy your little family to the fullest. The time goes by so quickly.

September 25, 2009 9:32 AM  
Blogger Charles said...

HUZZAH. I am very glad he is here, they are both healthy, and you are all happy. I love the Tuesday's Child reference, and I'm glad he wasn't born on Wednesday.

I know you're very very tired because you misspelled possess. Unles you intended to give the impression that your new one will form a posse and ride out in search of his quantifiable dimensions.

Only one tip. As much as I love the character, you cannot name your newborn baby Kvothe.

September 25, 2009 9:35 AM  
Blogger Adam B. Shaeffer said...

Congratulations! We'll be adding another boy child to the world soon (he might be a Libra too), so I'm in the market for good baby advice too.

So excited for you both :-)

September 25, 2009 9:36 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Aww, such an adorable photo and baby! Congratulations =)

September 25, 2009 9:38 AM  
Blogger Ronnie said...

Nice. We had our third little boy 10 days ago. I never quite believe how small they are or how reptilian they look when they are new. :)

Ditto on the advice for covering the package during diaper changes (we keep some extra wash cloths at the changing pad). I find that it helps to speed things up and keep you from being peed on if you slip the new diaper under the old before you open them up.

We find the Dr. Sears books ("The Baby Book" or the Ask Dr. Sears website) to be pretty good reference material. We like where he strikes the balance between recommending intervention and not.

Nobody is going to know this little person as well as you will for quite some time. Trust yourselves. I never felt more like an animal than right after we had our first baby - feeling my way through things and relying on instinct.

Congrats.

September 25, 2009 9:39 AM  
Blogger Aubrey said...

Crying baby that just won't stop - a rubber shelf liner on top of the dryer + pumpkin seat (with seat belt b/c I'm paranoid) on top of the shelf liner + a load of towels = 35 minutes of peace - just disable the buzzer :)

Beautiful news, beautiful baby - Peace and blessings to you all!

September 25, 2009 9:40 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

congratulations sir rothfuss!!
im a student nurse here in the PHILIPPINES and i bought your book on a local store because it was on sale and was in bad shape..but it turned out that i was a very lucky guy for buying your book. it was the best book i've ever read, better than HARRY POTTER!! way better!! umm bout the baby expect it double and even triple in weight in a few months time so it would be best to take pictures of your child monthly to the see physical changes..it would be a good memorabilia,,again congratulations sir..and cant wait for your book to be released.

-miguel carlo a. baquiran
manila, philippines

September 25, 2009 9:40 AM  
Blogger Alex said...

2 pieces of advice.
1. Breastfeeding is king, mainly because that way she has to do all the middle of the night feedings.

2. Babies bounce. They can survive the stupid things you may do to them. At least most of them.

September 25, 2009 9:42 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

ummm why not add your baby's name on the book..make it a powerhouse character...

-miguel carlo a. baquiran
manila, philippines

September 25, 2009 9:46 AM  
Blogger Rachel-G said...

Congratulations!
May he grow up health and happy and have your wit and talent.

September 25, 2009 9:51 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Congratulations!

When you first began this blog, you made a post about the UPS guy delivering your books- You compared them to a child and said you would like to have killed him. I laughed at the time. I had a newborn, and the difference was that if it had been a child, you _would_ have killed him; not just considered it. That is the difference.

So advice?

1. You're priorities will change. Go with it, and don't feel you need to apologize for it.
2. Get sleep. Whenever you can, however you can.

Best luck- Cameron

September 25, 2009 9:53 AM  
Anonymous Jana said...

Congratulations, you two!! It seems like tons of my friends have been having babies, lately. Oot is so cute! Do you have any name ideas yet?

September 25, 2009 9:54 AM  
Anonymous Stan said...

Congratulations, Pat.

As a father of two, I have to agree with Moadby.

When my son was born, the hardest adjustment for me was realizing that I was no longer the main character in the story of my life. Up until then, my life had been about me. After my son was born, it was all about him. Before he was born, for the most part, my decisions only affected me (and my wife, to a lesser extent). After he was born, I had to factor in how every single decision would affect my son. This took a lot of getting used to. The sooner you accept it, the better your life will be.

The second hardest thing for me to deal with was the lack of sleep. My son didn't sleep through the night until he was 18 months old. My daughter is 26 months old, and she still wakes up 1-3 times a night.

I know that many people are telling you to love and enjoy your son. Right now, you might think, "Of course I'm going to love and enjoy my son." And you will. Maybe you already do. For me, it took a couple of months before I realized just how much I loved my son. I mean, a few days ago, only you and Sarah lived in your house. Now you have a stranger living in your home who demands that you feed him, wipe his butt, give him a warm place to sleep, comfort him when he cries, and give him all your attention when he is awake. It takes time to adjust to that, so don't beat yourself up if you have some not so happy feelings right now.

The best piece of practical advice I can give you is to never, under any circumstances, let your child think that he can sleep with you and Sarah in your bed. He will get used to it, and he will be 3-5 years old before you can convince him to sleep in his own bed. You and Sarah are going to need what time you can get together at night.

Good Luck!

P.S. My verification word was dammen, but that's probably not the best name. I suggest that you name him "Levi Monroe Rothfuss." I wanted to name my son Levi Monroe (both are family names), but my wife refused and made me accept a more conventional "William." I have regretted it ever since. Maybe Sarah is cooler than my wife?

September 25, 2009 10:01 AM  
Anonymous Zenelly said...

Congratulations, sir! I hope you both gain a lot of joy from this baby!

And he's adorable. Just for the record.

September 25, 2009 10:06 AM  
Blogger The Art of Kim Kincaid said...

Nothing new here but wanted to send my good wishes to you and Sarah and little Oot.
In my vast experience of parenting, singing "Davey Crockett" while gently bouncing and swaying a babe in arms is guaranteed to quiet all known aliments.
While changing little boy's plumbing, watch out when the cold air hits.
Sarah- if you make it through the first two weeks of nursing, you will be rewarded. Trust me.
This is the last pearl of wisdom: forget "self". You can never replay this time of your life. Laugh, sleep when you can, be gentle and simply let the baby love spell flow through you.
Congratulations.

September 25, 2009 10:10 AM  
Blogger Robert Crandall said...

Congratulations!

I have a three week head start on you. My son came out at 10 and a half pounds. He's really a toddler.

Unique advice:
Invest (time) in a good photo backup solution. You want a backup, not just a mirror. Losing photos is torturously painful. It should be automated without any thought on your part, and it should backup 100% of your photos to at least 2 different physical hard drives. Contact me if you have questions - automated workflow is my job.

Everything else you'll hear plenty:
Happiest Baby on the Block (DVD) - this guy is creepy, but he knows his stuff. He has baby calming +5 going on. And his technique works. (Short story: when crying, swaddle your baby and make a loud SH sound right in his ear)

White noise helps babies sleep. We have a "sleep sheep" that is wonderful.

Doctors come in artist versions & scientist versions. I like the artist versions much more for my son - they've been amazing.

September 25, 2009 10:11 AM  
Anonymous Moira said...

Dunno why this never occurs to dudes who father li'l dudes as they seem to know what to do with their own penises in their own pants. And we mamas are sorta clueless in this department--at first.

But, POINT THE PENIS DOWN in the diaper. It'll save your onesies and your sanity.

September 25, 2009 10:11 AM  
Anonymous Sherri said...

I have to de-lurk here to add my completely irrelevant yet heartfelt congratulations.

September 25, 2009 10:17 AM  
Anonymous Moira said...

oy. And I jumped straight into the advice without saying CONGRATULATIONS!

How rude. So sorry.

September 25, 2009 10:28 AM  
Blogger marky said...

Meal do Naidheachd, Pat.

September 25, 2009 10:32 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Welcome Oot! How wonderful that yu have arrived at the party. I know that your parents must be to happy to finally be able to hold you in their arms........

Pat & Sarah, if he ever did develop the colic, massaging his little hips is a great help, feet too!

congrats happy family!

Chris

September 25, 2009 10:36 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Congratualtions! There's ist nothing more to say. You feel it yourself, how it is, do you?

September 25, 2009 10:41 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

congratulations to you both! Let's not mention the book for quite a while and instead just focus on the tiny hump of soft flesh~

September 25, 2009 10:44 AM  
Blogger Nancy said...

I am in tears looking at how beautiful Sarah and Oot are.

(I'm on to the grandma phase of my life and man, seeing that beautiful little guy...)

Congrats to you both and most of all to Sarah for her labor of love!

September 25, 2009 10:46 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Pat & Sarah,

As for him sleeping with you.... I loved having my children sleep with me, especially when they were nursing. I hardly lost any sleep at all that way, just snuggled a breast into their little mouths. They grow up and want their own space before long.... besides, you probably have other places and times for yourselves....... just my 2 cents worth.

September 25, 2009 10:47 AM  
Blogger Arin Kinsley said...

Congratulations to you and the new mother, and welcome to the world little one!

September 25, 2009 10:51 AM  
Blogger Wysen said...

Aww. Congrats to the three of you! Kids are absolutely awesome.

September 25, 2009 11:03 AM  
Anonymous Ryan K. said...

What an exciting time for you two! Congratulations on your addition. I'd like to give you some advice ... but I think it's more fun to find out stuff on your own. If you have specific questions, you have my number. Great job, mom and dad (that's you)! Cute baby!

September 25, 2009 11:03 AM  
Blogger King Sheep said...

Welcome to the world baby Oot. You're in for some laughs.

September 25, 2009 11:10 AM  
Blogger Katie said...

so many stories of babiers screaming and not sleeping and problems breastfeeding .. how about some positive for a change ?

mom of three, oldest is 21, youngest is 11. Breast fed all three - never had a problem. They all 3 pooped everytime they ate. No screaming, no colic, all slept through the night from two weeks old an onward.

the sleepless nights happen now - the girl is 21 and single, the oldest boy is 19 and a US Marine - tha baby boy is 11 and still totally precious ..

advice? LOVE HIM .. completely, totally, and unconditionally .. that's all any parent ever needs to do with their child .. and all a child needs from their parents

September 25, 2009 11:12 AM  
Blogger peggy38 said...

My advice to you is the same that I give to everyone in every situation since it is universally applicable and without a doubt the best advice you could give to anyone.

Don't panic.

This will be the sum of my contributions to your new adventure in parenthood.

Now I have a question. So how long will it take little Oot to be written in some form or another into the two books that are still gestating in your "womb"? Surely he and/or your experiences with parenthood will make his/its mark on the series at some point? I'll be looking for him from now on!

September 25, 2009 11:21 AM  
Blogger Dave-Brendon de Burgh said...

Hey Pat, congratulations! :-) What a beautiful photo of a beautiful mom and a beautiful baby, really chuffed for you. Congrats again! :-)

September 25, 2009 11:23 AM  
Anonymous LaShawn M. Wanak said...

Hooray! Congratulations! And what a beautiful picture. You must be one proud papa!

Hmm...parenting advice. There's only one thing I can think of. Don't freak out over the poops. Every kid poops differently, and when you breastfeed, sometimes the kid uses the milk so efficiently, he won't poop for a week. I should know. Freaked me out when mine did it. I'm not saying yours will do the same ('cause every kid's different), but if your mother calls you a bad parent for not giving your kid formula, you just tell her it's a known fact.

Can you tell I'm still bitter over that?

Anyhoo, congrats on the kid, and get lots and lots of rest!

September 25, 2009 11:24 AM  
Blogger Larissa said...

Congratulations! Our son turned four months old yesterday. We read NOTW to him as a newborn, and we all loved it, so thank you for being part of the beginning of our family!

The best advice we got when we were expecting was to selectively ignore all the advice we would be getting about being a parent, and it's true--everyone has an opinion, but do what feels right to you. So with that in mind... I don't believe it is possible to "spoil" a baby, so if our son cries, we hold him. Waking up often in the night is part of their brain development process, so we don't worry about it (and since he sleeps with us, it's no big deal). We do what feels right to us, and so far, it's working.

You'll figure it out, just like everyone else seems to. Welcome to one of life's greatest adventures!

September 25, 2009 11:25 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

my baby advice- Never make your kid sit at the table till he finishes his vegetables... it can ruin the poor things life.

And congratulations! I wish you and your lovely girl the best in your new family.

did you name him Oot?

September 25, 2009 11:25 AM  
Blogger Jenny said...

Enjoy it - especially those chest naps when you get to just lay there and have this warm little body resting on you.
Pick up the Happiest Baby on the block DVD - I know it seem lame and cheese but I really wish i had that for my first one. My advise for Sarah is master nursing laying down, as soon as possible. I didn't master that till 3 months and once I did the night time was 100x easier. Also get the Moby wrap - it's fabulous - even my husband loved using it. good luck.

September 25, 2009 11:43 AM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

If you're changing a poop diaper, stand far to the side. Poop already in the diaper is not an indication that he is done. Trust me. It's like a volcano with multiple eruptions.

September 25, 2009 11:51 AM  
Blogger Decameron Wilde said...

Congratulations! My vote is for Tristan for a name, because it's awesome and what I would have named one of my demonspawn had the ex allowed it. ;)

Mother and baby are both beautiful beyond belief, and that is a great, great picture.

Advice: sleep when you can. Breathe. Don't get so caught up in documenting a moment that you forget to live in the moment. If you miss the perfect picture, just remember that you had the perfect moment, and that is what counts.

I had 4 kids in under 23 months, giving me 4 in diapers simultaneously. I barely remember the first few years. They were filled with pee and poo and baby vomit. And first smiles, and baby laughs, and all the good stuff. However, I wouldn't wish that many small children on anyone at once, so my next piece of advice is birth control! And if you forget a pill once, use a backup plan, because apparently you can wind up with twins otherwise... ::grin::

September 25, 2009 12:11 PM  
Blogger JKB said...

CONGRATULATIONS, family Pat!!! I'm so happy for you!!!

September 25, 2009 12:19 PM  
Blogger Toby said...

A h-uile beannachd dhuibh a Phadraig!

Best wishes to you all. I have a sprog and she's 8. The only think I can say is that they get smellier, noisier and more destructive as they get older! Wouldn't change it for the world.

Slainte

Toby

September 25, 2009 12:36 PM  
Anonymous Sandra said...

Congratulations!

And the plural of Rothfuss is Rothfuesse. (Or properly with German characters: Rothfüße).

Greeting and best wishes for the small family,
Sandra

September 25, 2009 12:48 PM  
Anonymous Skyler H. said...

The doctors must have shaved his beard off as soon as he was born... Grats, Pat!

September 25, 2009 12:52 PM  
Anonymous LilMrsH said...

Congratulations!
Advice? That really works?
The cure for colic is found in the book The Happiest Baby on the Block. Buy it now, read it, be prepared! It saved our sanity.
Signed, the woman who did not have her baby in the aisle at Borders :)

September 25, 2009 12:54 PM  
Blogger Aerron said...

Awesome man, welcome to daddy-ness.

September 25, 2009 12:57 PM  
Blogger Marjorie said...

Congratulations to you both :-) You're right, he is cute as a very cute thing, and Sarah looks wonderful in that photo.

Baby tip - enjoy him. They grow so fast, and remeber to take time for you and Sarah, too.

September 25, 2009 12:59 PM  
Anonymous kaufmak said...

congratulations! As a father of two I can safely say, babies rock! Only advice for the manchild, teach him the three greatest things in life very early on. Of course those are:
1. to crush his enemies
2. see them flee before him
3. to hear the lamentations of the women and children.

September 25, 2009 1:33 PM  
Blogger Stuart said...

Well done both of you. Two pieces of advice -
1- Always buy clothes a size up and get him in to them as soon as you can, they grow very quickly.
2 - Don't listen to too much advice, babies are all different(except for the growing).

Enjoy.

September 25, 2009 1:34 PM  
Blogger Daniel Prevett said...

Two things:

1) If someone asks if there's something that they can do for you, the answer is "Yes". Then put them to work somewhere, cause there's always something to be done.

2) Try to get him to sleep with noise going on, so that you don't have to have absolute quiet for him to sleep as he grows.

Congrats! Welcome to fatherhood. It is a very busy but rewarding state.

September 25, 2009 1:41 PM  
Blogger Dan said...

Congratulations! I hope Baby, Mom, and Dad (in that order) are all doing well. Since you mentioned it, I'd like to share with you my reaction to becoming a Father for the first time. I was 26, married for almost two years, going to college, working three part-time jobs. My wife and I were alone and on our own a couple thousand miles from friends and family in a strange new town. The labor was long, but a day and a half and a C-section later, our daughter entered the world. After spending three days at my wife's bedside, she Demanded that I go home and take a shower. As I approached the door to our tiny one room apartment, I noticed something hanging from the door knob. A neighbor had left a tiny pink dress as a gift. I grabbed it, went inside and then really Looked at the tiny pink dress. The weight of the world then seemed to come crashing down on me, images of a girl wearing it, living, growing, looking at me as someone who she will judge men against for the rest of her life... it was overwhelming and I sat on the couch and cried like a little girl. Tears of Joy, Happiness, Fear and Uncertainty. I realized at that moment, tears streamed down my cheeks and onto the floor, that NOTHING WILL EVER BE THE SAME AGAIN. Right then my heart opened and swallowed my daughter up in unconditional Love. I was now a Dad

September 25, 2009 1:58 PM  
Blogger Gwen said...

Congratulations!

September 25, 2009 2:11 PM  
Blogger RingWraith said...

Congratulations to all 3 of you! I don't know when you'll have time to read all of these comments, but have at them...

My addition would be to tell you that there are almost no wrong ways to parent, there are only the ways that work for you. Don't feel guilt if your way is different, if it results in a happy baby and happy parents.

This I found out the hard way: learn to adapt. In our case, nothing from the birth on was as anyone had expected and no book in the world could have prepared us.

This too shall pass. In the middle of the 4th night in a row with no sleep, keep reminding yourself that things will change and time really does fly.

Just relax and enjoy. You do good work! :-)

wv: ovand (no, don't do it)

September 25, 2009 2:18 PM  
Blogger Barry said...

Congrats!

September 25, 2009 2:20 PM  
Blogger Over Enthusiast said...

Oh, wow Pat, congratulations! Oot is adorable <3
I wish you and Sarah all the luck in the world. Please take your time on the book, because you won't have any anymore. Babies are adorable, incredible little time-suckers that smell like spit.
I think my simultaneous thrilled well-wishing and sympathy can help me wait for Wise Man's Fear a little longer.

September 25, 2009 2:29 PM  
Anonymous Kayleigh said...

Congratulations, Sarah and Pat! Oot is so adorable. Are you going to tell us his name? Because if it's Oot, he may run into problems later in life. You don't have to; I'm sure we all respect yours, Sarah's and little baby Rothfuss's privacy. Congratulations again!

(Everyone's offering their word verifications as potential names--mine's Nosad, which does sound rather... cheery.)

September 25, 2009 2:37 PM  
Anonymous Diana Clark said...

Wow, what a perfect little person! :) You do very good work, you two!

For advice: Treasure every moment, even the horrid ones, because later you can laugh over even those.
Burping can be done in many positions. Sometimes, the best way to burp a baby is laying flat on his tummy on your lap. Whatever it takes to get that bubble up. (Not hanging upside-down by the ankle, however...)
Breastfeeding is awesome and amazing, but it can be painful if you're not doing it "right." Getting an experienced mom to give you frank advice can be a lifesaver. I nursed three boys for about one year each. They are now 24, 22 and 17, and are all very intelligent good-looking men. It seemed so critical to nurse them at the time, but it would probably have been fine if they had gotten an occasional bottle of formula.
Any way you end up with a healthy happy baby is the "right way."
I agree with the advice against silly names. :) (My Word Verification is "OVITION" which would be TERRIBLE for a baby name.)

Enjoy oot, Sarah, the joy and pain. Share pictures here occasionally, if you please?

Congratulations!

September 25, 2009 2:40 PM  
Blogger icarpenter said...

Congratulations! Welcome to the greatest adventure on earth!

Just my opinion but...you need at least a dozen onsies and more than a dozen cloth diapers, which are very good as burp cloths.

Also, I think diaper genies and the like are waaaaayyyyy over-rated as far as keeping odor down. I usually just carted it off outside to the trash rather than keep it indoors at all.

And we never listened to anyone else's advice on the topic: we picked our babies up as much as we could, let them sleep with us, and sang and read and cooed to them as much as possible. Hey, they are irresistable after all.

Matt

September 25, 2009 2:57 PM  
Anonymous Silly Me said...

Am I the only one who thought Pat's description of Oot was uncanilly reminiscent of Kvothe's description of Denna?

Hearty congratulations.

September 25, 2009 3:05 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Two words of advise:

1. A simple, manual breast pump works great and allows dads and others to feed the baby too. It also allows Mom to leave baby and not feel as pressured to hurry, hurry, hurry back. Pump when you can & store in the freezer or fridge.
2. An absolutely trustworthy babysitter (mom, sister, friend) who you have complete confidence in is priceless. Start looking now if you don't already have one. After the first two weeks or so, for your own sanity, you need a break. Take it!

Congratulations!

September 25, 2009 3:22 PM  
Blogger Jason Denzel said...

Hey Pat. Congratulations. Oot is super cute. I suggest a different name for the longer term though.

Also, watch out for those first meconium poops.

September 25, 2009 3:30 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Congratulations! He's so cute! What's his name?

September 25, 2009 3:37 PM  
Blogger Dana said...

Congrats!

My best advice would be to get little Oot used to sleeping when it's noisy. My mom insisted on absolute silence around baby-me, and 22 years later I can be woken up by someone thinking too loud.

For what it's worth, my verification word was "Whordles". Oot probably has a name already, and even if he doesn't I know you know better.

September 25, 2009 3:45 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

I like Devan for a name.

September 25, 2009 3:46 PM  
Anonymous Bobby said...

Congrats to you all. The only advice i can think to impart is that as awesome as books are they don't always tell you everything you need to know. Trust your instincts its worked for centuries.

September 25, 2009 3:54 PM  
OpenID ravenvoice said...

Congrats to the 3 of you. May there be much joy.

In case you're unaware, that picture is gorgeous.

September 25, 2009 4:04 PM  
Anonymous Blanca Cánovas. said...

Awwww..!! Congratulations, Pat!
( and to Sarah, of curse! )
I like the picture! (L) but..
'Oot' is a name? =P

September 25, 2009 4:07 PM  
Blogger Chanelle said...

Congratulations!!

September 25, 2009 4:14 PM  
Anonymous chris said...

aww congrats pat, sooo cute :P

September 25, 2009 4:39 PM  
Blogger Rin (Somtimes called Rinni Tin Tin) said...

That’s amazing, wonderful, magnificent, and every other synonym of "great" that exists.

Congratulations!

(and, yes, he is cute as a button)

September 25, 2009 4:41 PM  
Blogger PJ said...

ALWAYS carry extra diapers when you're out and about.

We didn't bring a diaper bag with us thinking "Oh we'll only be out for 15 minutes". This was a mistake.

(Our daughter is 6 weeks old today.)

Congratulations to you both!!!

September 25, 2009 4:59 PM  
Blogger Allen said...

congratulations! we'll all have to call you father rothfuss now... as if we didnt before.

September 25, 2009 5:12 PM  
Blogger Sedulo said...

Congratulations to all three of you.

The amazing part of babies for me has always been. "Someone is here that was not!" So powerful and awe inspiring, yet it happens constantly.
Take care.

September 25, 2009 5:14 PM  
Anonymous Krissy said...

Congratulations!!
Wow, that is an extremely long labor! I thought mine was bad, being 26 hours long.
I don't have any suggestions with names, and although you're getting a whole bunch of advice, I would say to spend every moment with you're little guy because time really flies by! My son is almost 5 months old now and it' so hard to believe.
Also, if you feel like you want more advice, Parent's magazine really helps me out.
Congratulations again and enjoy every moment with little Oot! You both did a great job! He's so beautiful! =]

September 25, 2009 5:38 PM  
Blogger peetie said...

This is not a very fun piece of advice, but I think it very worthwhile.

While very fun and cuddly, co-sleeping is a bad idea. You shouldn't sleep in the same bed as your child (major risk factor for SIDS). Don't let people smoke around 'em either.

And love the hell out of him. Looks like a great kid. Congratulations!

September 25, 2009 5:50 PM  
Anonymous Tessa said...

Aww, congrats, Pat! Is Oot the permanent name now?

I don't know much about those baby things given that I'm 17 and the youngest, but when I was born I was born with my eyes open and looked the doctor straight in the eyes, very much aware. He was rather unnerved; he'd never seen a baby do that. Needless to say, he retired a few months later. I like to think I had something to do with that. ;)

September 25, 2009 5:52 PM  
Blogger Marie said...

Congratulations! And as for advice (since you unwisely solicited) trust your own instincts, and the counsel of the baby’s grandparents, over any other official or antidotal source. Experts can only tell you about generic babies, and the range of normal is alarmingly wide. You and your baby are hardwired to understand each other.

But the best tool I have developed for myself is my crying-baby questioner. Crying babies are the destroyers of thought. If the baby is crying and my brain has shut off, I just follow these eight steps (in order—no skipping) to discover my problem. And remember that “colic” is a word that doctors use because there’s no medical term for “bored to tears.”

1. Is diaper soiled? Change diaper, apply rash remedies.
2. Is baby underdressed or over-bundled? Clothe properly.
3. Is baby thirsty or hungry? Offer breast, bottle, or alternate favorite food and water.
4. Is baby sleepy? Rock or dance with low lights or audio-visual distraction.
5. Is baby teething? Offer cuddles, apply teething remedies.
6. Is baby ill or injured? Don’t Panic! offer cuddles, apply appropriate remedies.
7. Is baby bored? Go out into the world and seek others of your kind.
8. If you reach this step and the baby is still crying, return to step 1.

September 25, 2009 5:54 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Congratulations!!! Welcome to sleepless nights for long months. I'm not a parent, but I have a little brother (not little anymore). What are you thinking for names? My sympathies for Sarah's ridiculously long labor. She'll probably be emotional for a while--look out! Babies make me happy and garrulous, love yours!!

September 25, 2009 6:03 PM  
Anonymous Marta said...

Congratulations Pat!
I'm so happy for you both!!

Love from Barcelona ^^

September 25, 2009 6:26 PM  
Anonymous Carl said...

It seems congratulations are in order! I'm glad he's not a prize potato.

I just finished The Name of the Wind.. I picked it off the shelf at random. I'd never heard of it or you before. I do that sometimes. .. pick half a dozen books by authors I know, then just prowl for one new author.

I was awestruck from the first sentence on... and as the amount of remaining book became thinner and thinner, and the story was only just ripening, I realized (I'm a bit dense, I guess) that this would be part of a series... now I'm hooked.

It sounds like the next book is not having any faster a birth than your son ... this is going to be a hard wait for me.

Hmm... baby advice... I have three daughters... I think the primary requisite for parenthood is patience, and don't be surprised that your children actually seem to hear you the way Charlie Brown hears adults.

September 25, 2009 6:28 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Wow, just adorable! You are both very lucky.

I haven't read all the posts, so sorry if this is a repeat. But my advice to Sarah is not to give up on breast feeding, even when it hurts like hell. And it DOES hurt! It does not mean she's doing it wrong! Tell her to get a nipple shield, which is a $5 piece of plastic that makes it much more comfortable and bearable. Check with a lactation consultant.

As for sleep, you can expect to wait a few years before you get a solid 8 hours again :)

September 25, 2009 6:36 PM  
Anonymous Sam said...

Congratulations to you both!

(word verification: Piltro. Piltro Rothfuss... No.)

September 25, 2009 6:59 PM  
Blogger RedObserver said...

Congratulations Pat and Sarah! A baby is a lot of work but the fun and happiness of nurturing the child and experiencing raising a child is worth it.

September 25, 2009 7:02 PM  
Blogger Candi said...

First, CONGRATULATIONS! Baby Oot is beautiful!

Second, accept help from your friends and family. My twins are 5 months now and it took me way too long to stop being so independent and accept and even ask for help. Your friends and family love you guys, so let them help!

Third, Fennel tea is a wonderful remedy for colic, I've used it for all four of my kids.

Last but not least! Love each other! Kiss & hug & giggle & tickle baby & Mom as much as you can!

September 25, 2009 7:25 PM  
Anonymous Alex Minge said...

Awww Pat that's adorable. Congrats!

September 25, 2009 7:57 PM  
Blogger SunScott said...

Congrats on the new addition!

September 25, 2009 8:12 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Congratulations! Well done! Becoming a father must have felt great... I'm going to become a father in few months as well... I have very confused feelings about this births thing but hopefully it'll gets less muddled as we get closer to the delivery date...

Loved your book, enjoying you blog... I'm a professor at university and I had quite a few chuckles with my friends reading your post about the start of semester...

Keep up your awesome work and thanks for hours of enjoyment you gave to me and all of you readers!

Thanks again,
VH

September 25, 2009 8:18 PM  
Blogger susan said...

Congratulations! My only advice, from a great movie "Parenthood":

Grandma: You know, when I was nineteen, Grandpa took me on a roller coaster.
Gil: Oh?
Grandma: Up, down, up, down. Oh, what a ride!
Gil: What a great story.
Grandma: I always wanted to go again. You know, it was just so interesting to me that a ride could make me so frightened, so scared, so sick, so excited, and so thrilled all together! Some didn't like it. They went on the merry-go-round. That just goes around. Nothing. I like the roller coaster. You get more out of it.

Enjoy the ride!

(WV- Hiroldis Rothfuss?)

September 25, 2009 9:01 PM  
Anonymous Cathiag said...

Congratulations - and welcome baby Oot. The only really important advice is to love him. Just love him, and everything else falls into place.

September 25, 2009 9:26 PM  
Blogger Connor Mcmanus said...

Grats!! As for fatherly advice? Do NOT listen if your mother tells you its perfectly okay to put mini-rothfuss in a kiddie pool without a lil swimmer diaper. Especially when said pool is occupied by other peoples kids...

September 25, 2009 9:36 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Congratulations! Such a sweet picture and a great description of Oot. I always did wonder why people need to know the size. Are they going to tell you to send it back if it's too small?

~Sarah

September 25, 2009 10:02 PM  
Blogger Aldosterone said...

dude Ocarina of Time!!! that is the best name EVER

September 25, 2009 10:48 PM  
Blogger Jennifer said...

Congratulations! What a beautiful baby! Not as cute as mine, of course, but I'm probably biased. :) My little Nerdbaby just turned a month old this week, so my husband and I are your future. I think I'm finally getting to the point where I look at him and think, "Wow! He's really ours and we get to keep him. How the hell did that happen? Who in their right mind let me have a kid?" Nerdbaby, who's name is really Jean-Luc, (Hey, his daddy is French and the two of us met online while playing a Star Trek RPG. It was unavoidable.) is just the most amazing thing in the whole universe. I never thought I'd willingly spend the night sleeping in an arm chair just because he wouldn't sleep anywhere but on my chest. I never thought I'd get so excited about counting how many poopy diapers I change every day. Even after he's been crying for 3 hours and nothing seems to work, I still love it. He'll smile at me and everything is worth it. I think I appreciate even the bad times, because we didn't know if he was going to make it his first few days. After four days of labor, he just couldn't take it anymore and we ended up with an emergency c-section. He wasn't breathing and had no heartbeat when he was born. Three days went by before the doctors decided that he was healthy enough for us to hold him. But after a week in the NICU, he got to come home and now he's a healthy screaming pooping baby that is the joy of our lives. I'm very glad that your little one got started with a little less drama. Here's wishing you all the joy, love and happiness in the world. And also a little bit of sleep now and then.

Ok, parenting advice...um... totally second what everyone said about making sure you keep something to cover up the bits when changing him. Baby boys have remarkable aim. Also, when they spray you, they laugh. Other than that, honestly, I have no clue what I'm doing but somehow it all works out. I don't think he's going to forgive us for the matching family Star Trek Halloween costumes for this year, but he's gotta have something to tell his therapist later in life, right?

September 25, 2009 10:52 PM  
Anonymous Ben said...

I highly recommend the Miracle Blanket. It's kinda like a baby straight jacket, but in a good way. Both my sons would dominate any normal blanket that they were swaddled in, but they were able to relax and sleep with the Miracle Blanket.

Best of luck!!

September 25, 2009 11:13 PM  
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Congrats...

My first child was amazing, slept through the, never cried no problems great baby. BUT then we had the second... I didn't know what to do with her. I think I was up with her for 6 months. Until my friend told me about this great Herbal stuff that works AMAZING I now give it to all the new moms. I found it in my local Herb store it's called Baby Calm, there is also one for mom. I'm telling you it saved me. I had such luck with it. My husband even tells people how wonderful life was AFTER we were told about this stuff. It wont hurt to look into it. Or ask around maybe someone you know has used it. Hey maybe you are a lucky one and wont need it.. Have fun with your new baby and good luck.

September 25, 2009 11:18 PM  
Anonymous CW said...

What a beautiful picture--you are both so lucky!! Congrats to the both of you!

I don't think I can add much advice to what you already have gotten here, but I will say this: enjoy the heck out of him while he's small, because once they hit the teens...it's a whole new world! ;)

September 25, 2009 11:56 PM  
Blogger Linus said...

Congrats, babies are..the coolest. You know, that sounded more meaningful in my head.

Best advice I got from my dad: for the first while, when she gets up, YOU get up. Yeah, maybe you're no help on the feeding front, not having the correct apparatus, but you can change him, hold him, be there for her. I know some people get all logical and such and may say "well, there's no point in BOTH of us missing sleep." That's just plain ignant. There's many a point to getting up to help. You love that for which you sacrifice.

Best advice I came up with on my own: don't be afraid to talk to a newborn baby as though he were a 26-year-old physics student. Baby talk has its place, sure, but there's something very, well, binding about a man and his son being in some sense equals, from the the beginning.

At least that's been my experience.

September 26, 2009 1:28 AM  
Anonymous pdxtrent said...

Congratulations to Sarah! Oot looks adorable. I love that line, "full of grace", it's a perfect description.

Enjoy these precious days.

September 26, 2009 3:00 AM  
Anonymous Strathos said...

Congratulations, Patrick!

September 26, 2009 3:47 AM  
Blogger Victoria said...

Congratulations Pat and Sarah!

I wondered why it had gone quiet around here.

I'm due for my fourth in about six weeks... I think I can offer a little bit of advice.

Go and find, 'The Baby Whisperer', by Tracey Hogg. Brilliant book. Has all the answers you will ever need about getting your baby to sleep without having to go down the 'cry to sleep' path or the 'carry them constantly', path. Basically, it is about working out when they are tired and letting them learn how to gently drift off...

It has lots of other great info, but believe me, the sleeping thing is going to be a bigger issue than you can currently imagine.

Best wishes to you both,

Vic K.

September 26, 2009 3:57 AM  

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